The night of the 24th week after breaking off from her last boyfriend. John was lying listlessly on the mattress, on the narrow in the dorm room, unlocked the cell phone and scrolled the screen up one's eyes stung Instagram and slightly wet, not just because of the radiation of light but also face his former lover in the pictures he saw of sweet memories evoked in the past. John getting hurt when finding another face in a photograph of a new lover's ex-girlfriend. John press lock button put the phone next to the pillow, and then try to sleep with the same sad feeling like twenty-three nights the week before.
Readers who, let's just say John is mine.
Six months ago I broke up with my girlfriend. Our relationship is already two and a half years. The duration of the fair considering my previous relationship lasted no more than three months. Over the past two and a half years that there are many sweet moments. Of course, there are quarrels, but we are a pretty good partner in dealing with the issue together so we can almost always find a way out.
Almost, not always.
One day on the 30th month of our relationship, the real problem is not very recent turns back to the forefront. If only I could control myself, in fact, it's a small problem. But it is the destiny of the Lord I was born with a Cancer. All the little things become big in the head of the Cancer. Overthinker is my middle name. Hence, debates began. After enough, we felt equally tired. We should be friends, I conclude. He was, in no surprise, argued the same.
Six months later I already feel quite improved.
But the first weeks of dropping out is a period which is quite troublesome. I did not cry when watching such a melancholy ending movie Hachiko, but each went to the bookstore and through the streets in the center of Jakarta used to go to frequently and little cafés we've ever visited, the feeling of "dheg! (heart sound)" that appears to make a passable hurriedly.
Let alone when seeing his name appear in the Twitter timeline.
Or in feed Instagram.
Or at home Steller.
Ten years ago, before there was a Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Path, it's not difficult desperate to make a move. Especially if the relationship over long distances (long distance relationship). Enough restraint not to call or send a message, not a look a piece of the photo in the wallet, not Issued the Gallery on your phone, at most two or three weeks a person is familiar with his new life and began to focus looking for overnight next heart. In fact, it could be faster.
However, with the presence of canals to social media, the work of the already heavy it so the weight only. Although it can refrain not to call and send messages, even if they've been brave enough to delete the former number lover, everything is so futile when Satan is called social media makes the names and faces of the old can suddenly appear and milling about on the screen of your mobile phone. Devil wind exhaled poignantly into the heart and the temptation to peek at how the situation now. If he's okay without me? Whether he's happy again? If he's already got a new partner?
The Castle defense move on already built preventing collapsing nostalgia as no stack Knocked over hands. In the occult, a fueling station comes up in advance, said with a smile, friendly:
"Move-on his starts from zero, Sir."
At the time I never consider to block ex-girlfriend in social media is whiny and unnecessary action. For me, pressing the unshare in Path or unfollow and block on Twitter/Instagram merely hinted at unstable emotional turmoil, as it was the culprit of the most party grieving and can't move on. I do not want to be seen like that. I want to see that I am okay though still connected to social media with an ex-girlfriend. I can get used to seeing his name and his face whenever his tweet Re-broadcast by my friends. I can be strong with all of it.
In fact, I was mistaken.
Everyone had a defense mechanism. Disconnect the entire lines of communication with your ex-girlfriend is one way that can be done. Previously, I think letting it the ex-list following, would make me familiar feelings "dheg!" it and later makes it tasteless; that's when I have moved on. But it turns out I still find both my thumbs on a regular basis are bound to the username he in the search field.
Like memories, Satan could not be killed. Then I fulfilled the tenets of the faith by strengthening move on in the digital world. The first step, opening the whole social media channel in which we – me and my ex-girlfriend still connected. Step two, find any keys that can disconnect from it: unshare, unfollow, block. The third phase, multiple worships and ask God for strength not to check the profile page ex again.
If you are struggling to let go of someone, you could try doing these steps. After you perform the move on the pillars in the digital world, be prepared for a new sobriety. You will feel more at peace and can concentrate on others that may be of interest to you. You can begin to love again. Have a crush again.
Now the former username and profile picture your girlfriend no longer appears on the screen of your mobile phone. Hope friends who you follow wasn't rebroadcasting status the status of the former. If it happens, don't panic. There is a mute button that faithfully awaits the surface Your thumb. Feel free to say hi.
Next: Follow the new people. Wake up to the connection with figure-figure more interesting. In this phase, there is no longer need to you Worried. There is no feeling that you need to keep, other than you feel it yourself. There is no reason to keep hearts you besides attend thyself. Do not hesitate to greet strangers in social media that his mind was attracted to you. Start communicating with him. No need to also think too far to make it a girlfriend; a good friend is already good enough. Point your attention to someone who you think is special, because the medicine first aid on a broken heart is a distraction.
You feel relieved to read the paragraph the last paragraph of this paper? There is a growing expectation of piss in the hearts of your youth? Nice.
But, as a good man, I have, to be honest. Give advice make other people more quickly than advised me. Until the first half passed since me and my ex-boyfriend broke up, I never managed to try the steps above I wrote with positive move on tenets in the age of digital. Do not cheer for me first. Tip You can still try the above and perhaps you will be successful.
However, if you can't do it not high enough just press a button and block it, unshare Keep tabs your heart like me Propagate my heart. Pray to the Lord That Doth Good, so she whispered to the former your girlfriend to break the digital you, as I pray that my ex-boyfriend who did it.
Then, please wait for a moment it was stifling, when you and the person you ever loved like me and my ex-girlfriend ever I loved back so a pair of strangers.
In the real world. Foreigners are also in the virtual world.
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