'Coming to terms with the past ' is a term. Not just any time of course, but rather a term that represents a range of process improvements that exist in a person in my therapy session facilitation. Because most of the problems that haunt someone's life to this day – that often also make it difficult to move on – comes from his past, then made peace with the past is expected to help them to organize your life in the present.
If we talk to the point, how to make peace with the past that fact? Only one thing and that one thing is very simple: walk in the present.
What else is the point? I don't know how often you've heard it, but a wise man once said:
"Human beings are the most confusing, they regret the past and worrying about his future, to the extent that they forget about their life at this time."
Is it true of the past for some people hurt? Or is it the FEELING that arises because of the actual killings of past painful? Can you feel the difference between them isn't it?
Dr. Marco Paret, an heir to the academic and scientific researchers mesmerism traditional hypnosis in Italy often emphasize this in a broad range of expression: emotion there is only in the past and in the future, when we live in the present, indeed THERE is NO EMOTION at all.
The first time I heard the phrase Dr. Paret in mesmerism training I follow, this thought seems to be a phenomenon was struck, isn't it answered a lot of questions why the quality of human life in this modern era lost much with the quality of life of our ancestors? Yes, our ancestors have a SPIRITUAL AWARENESS; they can live in the present with a sense of acceptance in the Lord of hosts, whether it is by way of meditation, prayer, worship or in any activities without worrying about the past or for the future.
Reflect for a moment, all the feelings that we feel, isn't it always relates to what happened in the past, or something we expect will occur in the future? Do not believe? Try to empty your mind, focus on the body and the rhythm of the breath you are completely alone, no need to think about anything at all, what you feel?
Already did it? Most of you know the answer, obvious if you do it right, there isn't anything that you will feel because there isn't anything else you think. In the condition that we are present in the whole of the present.
Conditions ' are found in the whole ' this is now known as PRESENCE. When we could be on the status of presence, this is the LEAKAGE of EMOTIONS can be minimized. But if we do it that way isn't hard work normally? Yes, it needs time to obtain and maintain this presence conditions, in particular for those of us who are nowadays preoccupied with activities that involve logical thinking function in large numbers.
That also answers the question of why many people today take you to do meditation everyday routine. The analytical conditions in mind, we branched out everywhere, for which daily activities require that they be in such conditions, the presence becomes a challenge, and then the status of meditative used to at least stabilize the thoughts that had branched out everywhere.
Meditation is meant not that must always formal meditation, a condition where we can focus on activity and cool down can only be classified as meditation. For those who are Muslim may do Dhikr or read the Quran for instance, along with other beliefs with each its ritual, which is important in this condition, occur mental relaxation and brain waves can be stabilized.
Back to the topic of discussion is at peace with the past, the question is why the past could be painful for us? The answer, as there are expectations that are not met there, which raises its DISAPPOINTMENT.
For example in the relationship of romance, when one is experiencing breakups, does it Hurt him? Yes, if he has high expectations of relationship fiction, but isn't it another story if he does not hope much for it, because of the mere whim for example?
Another example, you follow the entrance exam to a company. Let's say you take the test it with high expectations because there's a compelling reason that encourages you to work there, compared with you following entrance exams just because just try, not received (read: failures) you enter the company will give you a different impact.
Then again, we need to understand that the pain will be the past appear due to UNMET EXPECTATIONS there are up to now still overshadow us.
Fundamentally unfulfilled expectations that this occurred because of three things, namely:
Make a DECISION and then regretted because these decisions have an impact on our unwanted conditions.
DO a thing that is considered a FOLLY or errors that are also Regretted – this point is often a continuation of the first points ever, even though it sometimes stands alone.
Experience unwanted events (embarrassing, painful, annoying, sad, etc.) that due to the BEHAVIOR of others, could be regarding family relationships, romance, business, friendship and more.
Think for a moment, and the reasons weren't aspects influenced the pain in your past – which might also elements influenced you to continue reading this article so far – about one or more of the three points above?
Well, we both ends meet to exposure and foretaste of cause and effect, Let's now focus on the WAY from the 5 simple steps to make peace with the past. Before understanding the fifth step, I would like to declare in advance that there were FOUR categories of people who follow this process with each utterance:
The first category, those who have RESISTANT attitude, saying in your heart "Is not going to help me, I've been doing a variety of things, and all of it is of no use." They follow the process while murmuring and negative thinking.
The second category, those who say "see you later." They followed the process with a sense of fun but had no intention of sincerely doing it.
The THIRD category, those who say "Let's try it." They follow the process but only to the extent of deeds without appreciation, so no results.
The FOURTH category, those who say "I will find its essence and do our best to make it." They are the ones that through the process of with earnestness and sincerity. It is they who ultimately get the most following the seriousness of his heart.
I hope you belong to the latter category to get through this process properly.
To understand it more, there is a process of REFLECTIVE thinking you should do as follows this process. You don't have to write it on paper, only pour out your heart and mind when through the process. These five steps simple to do in face-to-face sessions, but to do so by following the written instructions require a separate focus, making it seem long and over five stages, just follow the guidance below.
FIRST, think about the past which proved painful for You, select one first if you believe that some events are painful for you. If you later want to do this yourself for anything else, do the same thing, a single instance for each procession.
This time it's not just thinking, I ask You to think of this event with a broader AWARENESS. Reflect on the situation in the incident as well possible when that event occurs, remember how old are you when it happens, as what you look at it, sad, angry, annoyed, disappointed or Whatever it is. Come up with all the details you can find, for example, what happened where, was with anyone, today, just imagine what it seems is going on again with real in your mind.
Realize one important thing: what hurts You in that event, discover the reasons behind Your pain or disappointment it was. There is hope what unmet if made you sick? What is the MEANING of this event is for you?
While You do this, I want you to focus on the parts of your body, feeling the pain reflected in this event, I wish you could feel its presence as there is in the body parts next to where? The head, chest, abdomen, hands, feet or where? For your convenience, don't think about it, just feel and let individual body parts give the sensation itself, can be a warm feeling, heat, cold, vibration or perhaps you do not feel anything. But somehow emerging thoughts about one part of the body that appears to be connected with this feeling, chest or stomach for example.
Regardless of the feeling was felt, put your left hand with the palm facing up on the lap, intend to move these feelings from the body that seems to the Palm of your left hand. Just imagine this feeling appears to spread and moved there, no need to think of messes, and then imagine what colors appear in the Palm of your left hand that represents this feeling (though not always most colors look symbolizing the red color).
SECOND, remove all the picture will that event, calm you. Adjust the length of the breath and count backward from ten to zero with the mere mention of even numbers only. Just do it, no need to question it, other times I will discuss the reasons behind this process, for your NLP practitioner this is known as the BREAK STATE.
Third, this time we'll focus on the present. Regardless of whatever it is that you have to go through, you live in the moment with all the achievement of each of you. Learn to appreciate and thanks to all who have already attained unto this day.
This time come up with an idea of all the achievements already accomplished in the present, it could be anything, that's important there is a feeling of gratitude that is connected with all this success. Imagine the various moments of success or whatever it is that you think You ought to be thankful for, whether it's for yourself or for someone you love; it can be regarding career, health, spiritual awareness or any of that.
This event will come up with an idea in a clear, bright details, as real as possible. Some people can even cry Touched when feeling the feelings of gratitude.
Make sure you find and feel it, don't proceed if you don't find it if it then just answers what You're thankful for that matter ought to be in that event, discover the reasons behind the feeling of gratitude that. What is the MEANING of this event is for you and its influence for yourself this time?
While You do this, I want you to once again focus on the parts of your body, a feeling of gratitude comes in this event, I wish you could feel its presence like there is on the part of the body next to where? The head, chest, abdomen, hands, feet or where? For your convenience, like the last, don't think about it, just feel and let individual body parts give the sensation itself, can be a warm feeling, heat, cold, vibration or perhaps. You do not feel anything but somehow emerging thoughts about one part of the body that appears to be connected with this feeling, chest or neck for example.
Regardless of the feeling was felt, put your right hand with palm facing up on the lap, intend to move these feelings from the body that seems to the Palm of your right hand. Simply just imagine this feeling seems to spread and moved there, exactly as before, and then imagine what colors appear in the Palm of your right hand representing these feelings (though not always most colors look symbolizing the color blue or white).
FOURTH, remove all the picture will that event, calm you. Adjust the length of the breath and count backward from ten to zero, this time with the mere mention of odd numbers only.
Fifth, position both hands on the lap, and Faced are both so its position facing each other, and we will put an end to this process by reconciling emotions within you. Do the process gradually appropriate guidance.
Focus on the left hand, feeling the juice of ill arising out of the events of the past, come up with the color that represents this incident, let the flashbacks of what happened from happening again in your mind.
Focus on the right hand, feeling the juice of gratitude that arises in the present, come up with the color that represents this incident, let all the flavors and shadows achievement gratefully popped into your mind.
Now the focus to the midpoint between both palms, in the space between the Palm of the hand is come up with a variety of events that occurred from the time. You experienced the painful incidents In the left hand first until then been in your current position concerning achievement and gratitude are on the right side. Many things that ever happened to the two days, the new decisions, new learning and new commitments that make you reach Your gratitude achievement positions you don't have to get them back only commandments themselves, let everything that appears on your thoughts flow by itself.
TIME of PEACE, I ask Your realized one thing: all the attainment of Your gratitude at this stage will never happen if the painful past that never existed. Yes, aware that any pieces of the past have a role shaping ourselves up to this point, if there is one thing only to missing from the past is not necessarily we have all this achievement now, it could be our condition even worse than we know! Could be better? Not necessarily too right? Better be thankful for can we are grateful.
Now get the smile, see events in the past and the present, there are LEARNING what you can pick him? How could all of this strengthen You become different from now?
The next stage is ready? Fixed focus yourself on all of the sequence of events that, and say (be with the whisper): "Thank you for all that has happened from the past up to the present moment. I'm aware of that (learning ... you pick ...) and for that, I decided to make peace with all of this, I received all this for what it is. I thank myself for what it is, I'm thankful for all of this and decided to make it the best story of my life. "
Finished second, let the pronounce it Palm of your hand slowly approached each other, do not help or slow him down. Let alone both of them move by themselves, to reconcile and unite the various pieces of the past and the present to all who deal with it incurable, i.e. when the two bump into each other and sticking to each other.
If both mutually clung to each other give thanks to God upon his permission in the past all this, realize what colors appear from both hands now it and paste it in the palms of both your chest with the intention of making it a permanent part of yourself from now on and forever.
As Dr. Richard Bandler, the inventor of NLP, "the best thing from the past is that it's already passed.". Just make all that learning for ourselves to become better. Forget the past equals the cheat yourself because ignoring the contrasts with sincere when we have a study that we pick up that event and the seriousness of the situation to change for the better.
Some people insist that they've sincere past while they do not know whether they are correct or just simply forget honest and entertain themselves.
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