When the relationship is stable, no muss, no drama, and it is equally comfortable, then you will feel the boredom. It was very natural as natural-fair.
That is not fair, is if we consider the "boredom" is a proof of the "lost sense", and then start looking for other sources of external relations preoccupation to fill the boredom.
Starting from looking for a friend confide opposite sex more can make the spirit, began stocking charm to my friends' office attractive, ranging lyrics left and right ... And it is not impossible at all if it is out there we will meet with the "other" who is able to resurrect flowery passion and make us remember the first days of her first invented.
Then we thought we fell in love with someone new, dam decided to leave the longtime partner. Then not long so, then repeats the cycle from the beginning.
Sometimes we never know that couples who love their lives every day and be happy forever exist only in fairy tales. Sometimes we forget that we live in the real world. If we ourselves do not decide and take action from to stop the cycle of falling in love - bored - new search - fall in love again, up to whenever there will be no end. Because you are guaranteed and will always be bored.
Here are two tips for you who are in a stable relationship and was bored:
1. Realize that boredom was reasonable, but conditioning your love every day.
Bored is how the natural evolution to create humans stop growing and do not go anywhere. Do not eat the same food, do not live in the same cave continuously, do not stay in the same state continuously. Thus, bored encourage people to always changing and evolving.
Boredom in a relationship does not mean that the natural way so that you do not go out with the same people constantly, but rather indicates that you have not done anything new in your relationship!
If you let your relationship stretchable without going to attempt to draw back, you're wrong. Although boredom is natural, still love must be nurtured every day to stay healthy relationship. Discover new activities that you like both, even try hobbies long forgotten. Go on walks together, take a moment to give a little surprise-surprise. Celebrate the stability of your love every day with new challenges together with your partner.
2. Appreciate and be thankful.
Do not let WHAT YOU WANT to make you forget about WHAT YOU HAVE. Because it was easy to forget to appreciate what you have when it was so long ago always there and never missing. Do not wait for the break up of new apologetic and asked for feedback, it is already much too late.
Sometimes, new people may look more attractive, newer, more funny, more makes us excited. But if in the end is definitely better than our spouse now? Do not be tempted because the grass is greener, remember, if the rain just wrote tarnish it.
Falling in love is easy. But to sustain love, to understand that boredom is one of the characteristics of stability relationships, to realize how childish end a relationship just because of bored, need a mature person and dare commit. I hope you and I included in that category.
If at the time of courtship wrote you can not fight the boredom, well ... let alone married.
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